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My Universe Came Together While it was Falling Apart


This is the title of my first memoir – The Universe Came Together, While it was Falling Apart. It is a memoir about my husband and I when we were caregivers, full-time, for my grandfather. My family and I lived with him for a total of five and a half years, we experienced life together. A life that was insanely busy and just plain demented – literally – with remodeling, raising a toddler, pregnancy, marriage, Alzheimer’s Disease, seperation and divorce, carreer, depression, anger, and burn out. Seriously. This and more took place under one roof from Summer of 2005 to Christmas of 2010. Then life just kept coming and coming and I am writing about it, because I am compelled to tell the story. I’m just not sure anyone will be compelled to read the fairy tale that I call my life.

Writers, specifically the ones writing the memoir, have that egomaniacal notion of, “My story is so fantastic and memmorable that I am obliged to share this utterly self centered story of myself with the world.”. I’m not a writer, but I said it any way, “My experience with being sandwiched between Alzheimer’s Disease and parenting and marriage and carreer, a quadrupal decker if you will, is so inspirational and wonderful and tragic and memorable. I’m going to write about it.”. I love to read and my choice of book is, was, and always will be the memoir – that is when I’m not reading the trashy romance novel. You know what they say, about the truth being stranger than fiction, right?Well it is, people are really f-ed up out there and while there are times that I have learned profound and life relevant lessons from the occasional memorist, there are other times that I pat myself on the back for living a just fairly and half way f-ed up life – cuz some of them are things that you couldn’t even make up in a fictional book – unless your name is James and your last name rhymes with – um – dye.

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  1. September 23, 2011 4:21 pm

    Keep on writing! That is the most brilliant title, ever.

    It’s experience’s like yours that so many women go through, and yet because it’s not written about it’s invisible. I didn’t do your full-time caring, but I know I learnt so much about myself while helping to look after my dad in his last years. It makes you question everything, and see life itself in a new light. It’s times like that when life is stripped bare, down to the bones, and extraordinary experiences occur.

    Go for it!

    Thanks for visiting my blog and the lovely comments.


    • September 23, 2011 4:23 pm

      Juliet, thank you so much. I just got kind of all choked up. You have no idea how much that just meant to me, as a writer. 🙂

  2. September 27, 2011 12:13 am

    I really love that title also! Keep going! From what I’ve read your story has inspired me already!

    • September 27, 2011 12:20 am

      Thank you, DL! That means a lot to me, thanks for visiting!

  3. Rose permalink
    September 30, 2011 1:46 am

    Great title! Keep at it, girl!

  4. October 2, 2011 6:10 am

    Your book should be an inspiration to those who have shared even some of the difficulties you faced in that 5-year period. It’s amazing how much we can endure when we are thrown in the middle of a situation that requires all of our energy and devotion. I am sure you are stronger emotionally and wiser from that experience and your book will hopefully help others who may have to endure the same type of hardship you experienced.

    My blog is full of quotes that deal with hardships and pain and how we can and why we should get through them. Congrats to you for continually moving forward in spite of all pain. You are undoubtedly a better person for it all. The book title is appropriate for your story and I wish you all the luck in the world in getting it published.

    • October 2, 2011 1:53 pm

      Thank you, California Kid. I do feel stronger from the experience, and I feel like I became more emotionally mature during the whole debacle. Your comment is just wonderful, thank you for visiting!

  5. uponmyheart permalink
    October 6, 2011 4:08 pm

    wow…amazing…I love it. Please keep it up. I love to write and have an insanely busy life full of so much, the title will catch attention of those of us living that life. It sounds hauntingly beautiful. 🙂

  6. October 10, 2011 11:17 pm

    Hi, Joy, nice to “meet” you here. Your book sounds interesting, and I know firsthand that the truth can be stranger than fiction sometimes. My caregiving journey with my family through my mother’s 13 year battle with Alzheimer’s was insane too! It helps so much to write and process the things that happen, it is a form of necessary therapy and can help us move on to a much better place in our lives. It has been that way for me, and I hope that it will be for you too! Best of luck with your efforts from another Alzheimer’s caregiver “survivor”!

    • October 10, 2011 11:53 pm

      Thank you, Kathleen! It is a terrible and nasty disease. Thank you for stopping by and I hope you enjoy and can relate to some of my posts.

  7. Schmuckatelli permalink
    October 29, 2011 4:23 pm

    I read an (auto)biography of Orson wells. He told his biographer to tackle his ex-wife’s bio, which she did. The Hollywood moviestar ended up with Alzhiemers & the inspiring part of the story was that she and her family organized Alzhiemer’s people on a national level because they wanted the cops to stop mistakenly picking them up off the sidewalk as drunks, and wherehousing them in the slammer. the wife bio is titled “If this was happiness…” Your Blog is an organization. It’s all good.

    • October 29, 2011 4:31 pm

      It is good, Mayorman! Absolutely.

      Sent from my iPhone


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